Have Heart
Direct Answers - Column for the week of May 24,Share your goal with someone, 2004
I am the mother of a 6-year-old child. My husband is an alcoholic and refuses to realize it because he can skip a few days, once in awhile, before drinking again. A few years ago he went to a counselor with me and was told those few days in between are considered a "dry drunk." I totally agree as his verbal abuse is worst when he's dry occasionally.
I have a little bit of college, but no vehicle or means of getting out on my own. Everyone refuses to help. They tell me to stay with him and raise my son. I feel I am the only parent as my husband spends most of the time drinking, cursing, or sleeping. Why am I the only person who feels this is no life for a child?
My son and I have nowhere to turn. My dad passed away when I was a child. My mother takes as much as she can from us and only looks out for herself. What can I do,frustration and conflict.?
Sondra
Sondra, a few years ago a friend of ours went on vacation, and we agreed to feed his dog, a Great Pyrenees, while he was gone. Wayne was carrying a 50 pound sack of dry dog food through our friend's kitchen, when the bag split. The height and momentum of the moving bag caused dry food to ricochet everywhere.
Dog food covered the entire kitchen floor. Some of it landed in our friend's sun porch, home office, living room, and breakfast nook. It was a mess to clean up, but the hardest part may have been deciding where to start and having the heart to begin.
You are right,5685 Ugg Fox Fur Short Chocolate Boots. This is no life for a child. Your son is growing up in a world totally beyond his control. He can't stop his father's drinking, he can't stop his father's abuse, and his father is not showing him how to be an adult male.
A home like yours is a factory for producing children who will struggle as adults, seeking to please others in preference to seeking workable solutions to problems. In addition, children of alcoholics usually feel isolated and question themselves, while pretending to outsiders that everything is normal.
Your mother won't help. She wants to keep you in this situation for her own benefit. Your friends won't help. The simple aid of close friends and family is unavailable to you, so your first step will have to be a bigger one.
Contact everyone you think could help you,4. Take massive action. Be persistent. Never quit.. That includes government services, career counselors, women's centers, churches, and an attorney. Look into every possible type of assistance. Your goal is to get yourself and your son out of the control of an abusive drunk. Keep your eye on the goal. If you go to an organization or individual, and their goal is not the same as yours, move on to the next possibility.
You don't have the ability to make your husband stop drinking, and we are not going to tell you to handcuff yourself to this situation. Some people may tell you that you can help your husband not to drink, but they won't say, as is often the case, you may never change his behavior. He may be five years from sobriety or 35 years from sobriety. He may spend his entire life inside a bottle.
You cannot cure someone of something they deny they have. But you have been cured. You no longer want to be the wife of an alcoholic or have your son raised by one. Don't let anyone uncure you of that.
If you and your son leave, then you control your fate, not a bottle of liquor. Often in life we are handed 50 pounds of dog food to clean up. The hardest part is deciding where to start and having the heart to begin.
Wayne & Tamara
Friday, November 30, 2012
Wednesday, November 28, 2012
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The Discerning Effect Of Gladness by Amy Twain
Gladness is a nounit's the name for the condition of being glad. Therefore, the word has a certain sense of being pure about it,5685 Ugg Fox Fur Short Chocolate Boots, like the purity of driven snow. The etymology of the word gladness is smooth' and shining'. It actually made me think of what it must have been like in the early 1st century church when it was said that they "ate together with sincere and glad hearts,the older man has a realization. He says." (Acts 2:46). In the Bible, there are 53 references to being glad or gladness'. It can be defined as: 1. full of cheerfulness and brightness 2. having a happy or cheerful disposition by nature; 3.
expressive of, marked by, or caused by joy and happiness 4. experiencing delight, pleasure or joy: made pleased; made satisfied, happy or grateful—oftentimes used with of: very willing. The wisdom teacher Qoheleth in the Old Testament taught, "I commend to enjoy life, because nothing more is good for a person under the sun than to drink and eat and be glad." (Ecclesiastes 8:15) I think oftentimes we do not truly appreciate the simple pleasures of food like we can, but whenever we are being invited to a dinner or lunch, there's a true and genuine sense of looking forward to it for the most of us.
Now, that's a sign of simple gladness. What a sudden flash of thunderous truth is this happening? The true gladness penetrates. I received an email recently from my church and I read with gladness the very gladness of a pastor to see all the great and wonderful ministry of God that surrounds him. Well,Krishna, that is what I read (between the lines actually) as he is lifting one person after another up to the whole e-congregation—the Spirit of God at work. Gladness has a certain infectious joy about it. It is full of love; it refuses to be swayed by anything but the best, although it could also view and handle the worst.
I recall an old spiritual quoting Isaiah "wear a garment of praise for the spirit of heaviness." No matter what the circumstances are, as long as the smile is there, there is life, pure and simple. Being glad is a simple feeling or emotion; just like joy. And it is in this sense of inherent joy,instead of making "lose 50 lbs" your resolution, the one described by those in the early church which I think Paul was referring to when he prodded the followers of the Way to "Do all without arguing and complainingbecome pure and blameless and shine like the stars." (Philippians 2:14-15). There is possibly no other large collection of specialized writings so scattered with joy as this.
We could either be made happy or make happy yet there is a more primary or more profound gladness of disposition. Life is priceless and essential. If gladness could get us even just halfway there why will we not automatically be more glad? Gladness has true and divinely anointed strength about it. Being glad and able to enjoy simple happiness of life for whatever they are , are not trying so hard. This is the genuine secret of God's grace; we let His love that never condemns enter into our awareness and we know the help of the Spirit which causes joy of disposition; happinessthat brings us peace and other virtues.
Gladness is a nounit's the name for the condition of being glad. Therefore, the word has a certain sense of being pure about it,5685 Ugg Fox Fur Short Chocolate Boots, like the purity of driven snow. The etymology of the word gladness is smooth' and shining'. It actually made me think of what it must have been like in the early 1st century church when it was said that they "ate together with sincere and glad hearts,the older man has a realization. He says." (Acts 2:46). In the Bible, there are 53 references to being glad or gladness'. It can be defined as: 1. full of cheerfulness and brightness 2. having a happy or cheerful disposition by nature; 3.
expressive of, marked by, or caused by joy and happiness 4. experiencing delight, pleasure or joy: made pleased; made satisfied, happy or grateful—oftentimes used with of: very willing. The wisdom teacher Qoheleth in the Old Testament taught, "I commend to enjoy life, because nothing more is good for a person under the sun than to drink and eat and be glad." (Ecclesiastes 8:15) I think oftentimes we do not truly appreciate the simple pleasures of food like we can, but whenever we are being invited to a dinner or lunch, there's a true and genuine sense of looking forward to it for the most of us.
Now, that's a sign of simple gladness. What a sudden flash of thunderous truth is this happening? The true gladness penetrates. I received an email recently from my church and I read with gladness the very gladness of a pastor to see all the great and wonderful ministry of God that surrounds him. Well,Krishna, that is what I read (between the lines actually) as he is lifting one person after another up to the whole e-congregation—the Spirit of God at work. Gladness has a certain infectious joy about it. It is full of love; it refuses to be swayed by anything but the best, although it could also view and handle the worst.
I recall an old spiritual quoting Isaiah "wear a garment of praise for the spirit of heaviness." No matter what the circumstances are, as long as the smile is there, there is life, pure and simple. Being glad is a simple feeling or emotion; just like joy. And it is in this sense of inherent joy,instead of making "lose 50 lbs" your resolution, the one described by those in the early church which I think Paul was referring to when he prodded the followers of the Way to "Do all without arguing and complainingbecome pure and blameless and shine like the stars." (Philippians 2:14-15). There is possibly no other large collection of specialized writings so scattered with joy as this.
We could either be made happy or make happy yet there is a more primary or more profound gladness of disposition. Life is priceless and essential. If gladness could get us even just halfway there why will we not automatically be more glad? Gladness has true and divinely anointed strength about it. Being glad and able to enjoy simple happiness of life for whatever they are , are not trying so hard. This is the genuine secret of God's grace; we let His love that never condemns enter into our awareness and we know the help of the Spirit which causes joy of disposition; happinessthat brings us peace and other virtues.
Tuesday, November 27, 2012
is the possibility that the door-to-door water
Mindfulness and Clarity: What's In Your Pot?
No matter how enthusiastically we embrace the
concept of simplifying our lives, things have a
way of getting complicated.
Perfect example: My family sold nearly everything
and moved to Mazatlan, Mexico to explore living
with less stuff and more fun. And it's been working
beautifully. It's amazing how much less there is to
worry about when, well, you have less.
Here's my favorite equation:
6 people (4.5 drivers) x 0 cars =
0 car insurance/maintenance/gas/worries
about being on the road
Now, that's some beautiful math.
Still, despite the simplicity of our daily routine,
we all find little irritants to magnify.
In fact, we laugh every day about the ridiculous
things we find to stress about. It's as though
we NEED a bit of agitation--or we're still weaning
ourselves from the go-go habit--so we stir it up
from the dumbest things. And precisely because
we have so few of these little stressors,or more likely die right there on the spot., they
are easy to see--and laugh about,5685 Ugg Fox Fur Short Chocolate Boots.
We joke about the fact that the thing my
husband is most likely to get stressed about
is the possibility that the door-to-door water
bottle delivery guy--who comes on Tuesdays
and Saturdays--MIGHT come a day late,
necessitating a block-long walk to the
corner tienda to pick up an extra bottle.
Bottled water is important, as our tap water is not
drinkable here in Mexico. In fact, there are days
when it comes out brown--which does wonders
for a load of white laundry,in simple words it helps ordinary people achieve extra ordinary dreams., let me tell you.
Now, it is true that one time the water bottle
delivery guy missed a Tuesday delivery.
And yes, we ALMOST had to to get water.
ALMOST. But not quite. We had enough.
Whew. That was a close one.
Another classic example: when we run out of
coffee. If Tom notices that we have no more
grounds in the bag in our freezer that morning,
he makes a loud mental note that goes something
along the lines of: "Dang it! We have to remember
to get coffee today."
Several times during the day, he'll say, "Okay,
after lunch, maybe we can go out and get coffee"
or "Let's pick up some coffee on the way to Spanish
class."
The place where we buy coffee is El Faro, a
corner-facing storefront at which you walk up and
get your espresso or ground coffee at the counter.
It is located approximately 50 yards from our
front gate,* ... Is this the best place for your focus.
Now, to be fair, Tom still has plenty of Real-World
worries. He is, after all, the father of four teenage
daughters. He runs a company--virtually--with
hundreds of customers/vendors. He has college
bills to consider, kids scattered around the
globe, and a fair number of extended family
issues that arise.
But the daily stuff that used to fill our minds
and suck our energy? That's gone. Or, if not
gone, then replaced by trivial things like worrying
about the water guy.
The value of simplicity is that it leads to clarity.
It's as though you've got a big soup pot on the
stove. You can fill it will all kinds of things,
concocting a thick stew. Or, you can simmer a
broth and add a few carefully chosen ingredients.
Now, the stew is rich and hearty. It's also thick
and you've got to keep stirring it or else
there is going to be something burning
on the bottom. It's so thick, in fact, that you
can't really see everything at once--just whatever
you happen to stir up toward the top.
The broth, on the other hand, is clear. You can
see right through it to every chunk of potato. It
is simple to see that nothing is burning on the
bottom. You don't have to do a lot of stirring
because it's all right there, easy to watch.
The stew has its advantages, sure. It's more
complex and meatier. But it's also very
time-consuming, both in preparing the ingredients
and in maintaining (stirring) it.
The broth is clear and simple. It's very satisfying
in a different way, because you can really appreciate
the flavors of the few things you've added. It's easy
to make and takes no stirring.
So, the question is: are you cooking broth
or stew?
If you're looking for clarity, consider the value of
going for the broth. It makes life so much easier.
We're seeing our soup quite clearly these days,
and we're appreciating every tasty bite. When
the "coffee" potato or the "water guy" potato
shows up, at least we can see it for what it is
and there's no danger that it will stick to the
bottom and ruin the flavor of the whole pot.
Consider simplifying your soup, and you'll be
creating room for clarity, comfort and comic
relief--and plenty of time to remember to get
coffee.
No matter how enthusiastically we embrace the
concept of simplifying our lives, things have a
way of getting complicated.
Perfect example: My family sold nearly everything
and moved to Mazatlan, Mexico to explore living
with less stuff and more fun. And it's been working
beautifully. It's amazing how much less there is to
worry about when, well, you have less.
Here's my favorite equation:
6 people (4.5 drivers) x 0 cars =
0 car insurance/maintenance/gas/worries
about being on the road
Now, that's some beautiful math.
Still, despite the simplicity of our daily routine,
we all find little irritants to magnify.
In fact, we laugh every day about the ridiculous
things we find to stress about. It's as though
we NEED a bit of agitation--or we're still weaning
ourselves from the go-go habit--so we stir it up
from the dumbest things. And precisely because
we have so few of these little stressors,or more likely die right there on the spot., they
are easy to see--and laugh about,5685 Ugg Fox Fur Short Chocolate Boots.
We joke about the fact that the thing my
husband is most likely to get stressed about
is the possibility that the door-to-door water
bottle delivery guy--who comes on Tuesdays
and Saturdays--MIGHT come a day late,
necessitating a block-long walk to the
corner tienda to pick up an extra bottle.
Bottled water is important, as our tap water is not
drinkable here in Mexico. In fact, there are days
when it comes out brown--which does wonders
for a load of white laundry,in simple words it helps ordinary people achieve extra ordinary dreams., let me tell you.
Now, it is true that one time the water bottle
delivery guy missed a Tuesday delivery.
And yes, we ALMOST had to to get water.
ALMOST. But not quite. We had enough.
Whew. That was a close one.
Another classic example: when we run out of
coffee. If Tom notices that we have no more
grounds in the bag in our freezer that morning,
he makes a loud mental note that goes something
along the lines of: "Dang it! We have to remember
to get coffee today."
Several times during the day, he'll say, "Okay,
after lunch, maybe we can go out and get coffee"
or "Let's pick up some coffee on the way to Spanish
class."
The place where we buy coffee is El Faro, a
corner-facing storefront at which you walk up and
get your espresso or ground coffee at the counter.
It is located approximately 50 yards from our
front gate,* ... Is this the best place for your focus.
Now, to be fair, Tom still has plenty of Real-World
worries. He is, after all, the father of four teenage
daughters. He runs a company--virtually--with
hundreds of customers/vendors. He has college
bills to consider, kids scattered around the
globe, and a fair number of extended family
issues that arise.
But the daily stuff that used to fill our minds
and suck our energy? That's gone. Or, if not
gone, then replaced by trivial things like worrying
about the water guy.
The value of simplicity is that it leads to clarity.
It's as though you've got a big soup pot on the
stove. You can fill it will all kinds of things,
concocting a thick stew. Or, you can simmer a
broth and add a few carefully chosen ingredients.
Now, the stew is rich and hearty. It's also thick
and you've got to keep stirring it or else
there is going to be something burning
on the bottom. It's so thick, in fact, that you
can't really see everything at once--just whatever
you happen to stir up toward the top.
The broth, on the other hand, is clear. You can
see right through it to every chunk of potato. It
is simple to see that nothing is burning on the
bottom. You don't have to do a lot of stirring
because it's all right there, easy to watch.
The stew has its advantages, sure. It's more
complex and meatier. But it's also very
time-consuming, both in preparing the ingredients
and in maintaining (stirring) it.
The broth is clear and simple. It's very satisfying
in a different way, because you can really appreciate
the flavors of the few things you've added. It's easy
to make and takes no stirring.
So, the question is: are you cooking broth
or stew?
If you're looking for clarity, consider the value of
going for the broth. It makes life so much easier.
We're seeing our soup quite clearly these days,
and we're appreciating every tasty bite. When
the "coffee" potato or the "water guy" potato
shows up, at least we can see it for what it is
and there's no danger that it will stick to the
bottom and ruin the flavor of the whole pot.
Consider simplifying your soup, and you'll be
creating room for clarity, comfort and comic
relief--and plenty of time to remember to get
coffee.
Monday, November 26, 2012
I'm not that good." Instead
The World's Greatest Self
Have you ever realized that you have the power to get anything you want and be anything you want to be? If you're still clueless about your abilities, continue reading and learn about the success secrets of the world's greatest self-improvement superheroes.
In a land full of potentials, powerful superheroes live in happiness and fulfillment. But they're not just ordinary superheroes; they belong to the highest breeds of the self-improvement clan. They possess the superhuman ability to get anything they want. Let's meet them and discover their success secrets.
1) ASSIGNMENTORS!
These superheroes are able to acquire any quality or ability that they may desire. They even have the power to instill or "assign" qualities to others, hence contributing to the immense build-up of confidence and happiness.
Success Secret:
They use other names perceived to be superior. If they want to encourage someone to write better, they might say, "You're a great writer, Ernest Hemmingway. I believe you can always surpass your previous articles."
By assigning the name Ernest Hemmingway to the writer, they implant within him, in a subconscious manner, the writing prowess of Ernest. On the other hand, the writer will try his best to live up to everyone's expectations that he, indeed, possesses the ability of Mr. Hemmingway.
They also do the bizarre yet highly powerful practice of putting someone else's head into their heads, at least in their minds. If they want to be as intelligent as Einstein, they go to a quiet place where they can relax and concentrate. Then they imagine wearing Einstein's head over them. They absorb his aura; and surprisingly, they will begin to think, act, and feel like Einstein.
2) GOAL MASTERS!
Goal masters are positively mad scientists who meticulously prepare well-laid plans and goals that allow them to conquer their future.
Success Secret:
They write down their goals and break them into tiny bite-sized chunks. They know the importance of doing it step-by-step, little by little, to get to their destination. They have the power of flexibility (No, not the power of elasticity) - but the power to adjust to the circumstances, prepare new goals, and continue pursuing them bit-by-bit. They are master motivators with the discipline to stick to their objectives. They enjoy the journey in the attainment of their goals.
Goal masters know their limits. They know that if their goals are irrational, they'll get results that will further prevent them from attaining their objectives. For example, if they set a goal to make a million dollars in a month (unless they are one of those financial geniuses), their subconscious will command them to sacrifice sleep,Remember Kathy, ignore stress, work endlessly, etc. And when they actually do what their subconscious minds tell them, they'll fail, get frustrated, and give up, thinking that nothing works no matter how hard they try,"I shouldn't be feeling like this" or "Why am I feeling like this".
Therefore, goal masters set their goals to achievable mode. Their goals can be difficult to achieve, but they make sure they are possible to attain. Instead of the above scenario, they set something like earning $20,5685 Ugg Fox Fur Short Chocolate Boots,000 a month. After they achieve that feat, they set a higher goal of say, $40,000 a month. They know the value of patience and working systematically.
3) HOCUS FOCUS!
These magicians can tackle any task at lightning-fast speeds and with laser-like accuracy.
Success Secret:
They focus their energies on one thing at a time, and give it all they got. All their attentions are concentrated on the particular task at hand. They are able to endure and withstand the outside distractions because they have developed the discipline, will power, and determination to continue pushing until their purpose has been accomplished.
4) TIME COMMANDERS!
These superheroes are able to make time submit to their will. They have the power to summon all the time in the world to do whatever they please.
Success Secret:
They are extremely organized in everything that they do.
They put labels on bottles, place similar files on one folder, and prepare in advance a list of things they have to do for the next day.
They can also use their minds to organize things they have to remember. Studies have shown that people could only retain information that fit between 5 to 9 categories at a time. This is the 7+-2 rule of Neurolinguistic Programming.
Time commanders are aware of this rule; hence, they have devised a strategy known as "categorization." If they have many things to do, they group related stuffs together. They combine activities such as reading books, listening to educational tapes, and watching training videos into a category such as "Education." They group swimming, playing basketball, and paying fees for the gym in a category called "Fitness." They do this for all their other tasks.
Their greatest strategy is known as "delegation." They know the incomparable power of leverage. They delegate trivial and repetitive tasks to other people who can do them satisfactorily, so they can concentrate on becoming more productive with their most valued possession - Time.
5) VISUALIZERS!
The Visualizers can bring into reality anything that their powerful minds can conceive.
Success Secret:
Everyday, they keenly visualize what they want to become or what they want to achieve. They envisage the event so clearly, that they can actually feel and experience the happiness,is what I am meant to do, excitement, and other strong emotions accompanied by their visualization.
The Universe interprets the pictures unleashed by their subconscious minds and transforms them to reality.
6) AFFIRMATIONARIES!
These superheroes use the power of words to get anything they like and be anything they want to be.
Success Secret:
They loudly chant the mantras of success (known as affirmations) everyday with passion and the belief that they are already getting and experiencing what they are chanting. They don't say, " I will be a great doctor" or whatever they want to be. They say, "I am the greatest doctor in the world." And they believe it with all their hearts; that's why they succeed.
7) ABUNDANCE ATTRACTORS!
They attract fortunes, luck, blessings, or the so-called good things in life.
Success Secret:
They cut off any negative thoughts or problems from their minds, and count their blessings. They thank God/the Universe/people around them for all the wonderful things they're receiving, have received, and will be receiving.
By doing this, they are acknowledging that they are indeed blessed and flowing with abundance. And by showing gratitude and giving thanks, they are befriending the Universe to give them more.
They give generously .If they want more money, they give money to those who need them more. If they want to have lots of friends, they become trusted friends to everyone they meet.
But they do not expect anything in return. They give because they want to and because it makes them happy, not because they have a hidden agenda in mind.
They also know how to receive gratefully, aside from being great givers.
If someone compliments them, they don't say, "No, I'm not that good." Instead, they say, "Thank you." By being grateful and appreciative to those who have given something to them, they are attracting more blessings and abundance into their lives.
8) ATTITUDE SHIFTERS!
They remain positive and composed despite all obstacles and challenges.
Success Secret:
They never allow any negative thought to enter their minds. Whenever something negative tries to evade their minds, they just quickly shift their thoughts to something positive.
And the most powerful of them all
9) YOU!
You have the combined powers of all of the above superheroes and can do anything!
Success Secret:
As long as you apply the success secrets above, you are invincible and unstoppable in anything that you do.
Have you ever realized that you have the power to get anything you want and be anything you want to be? If you're still clueless about your abilities, continue reading and learn about the success secrets of the world's greatest self-improvement superheroes.
In a land full of potentials, powerful superheroes live in happiness and fulfillment. But they're not just ordinary superheroes; they belong to the highest breeds of the self-improvement clan. They possess the superhuman ability to get anything they want. Let's meet them and discover their success secrets.
1) ASSIGNMENTORS!
These superheroes are able to acquire any quality or ability that they may desire. They even have the power to instill or "assign" qualities to others, hence contributing to the immense build-up of confidence and happiness.
Success Secret:
They use other names perceived to be superior. If they want to encourage someone to write better, they might say, "You're a great writer, Ernest Hemmingway. I believe you can always surpass your previous articles."
By assigning the name Ernest Hemmingway to the writer, they implant within him, in a subconscious manner, the writing prowess of Ernest. On the other hand, the writer will try his best to live up to everyone's expectations that he, indeed, possesses the ability of Mr. Hemmingway.
They also do the bizarre yet highly powerful practice of putting someone else's head into their heads, at least in their minds. If they want to be as intelligent as Einstein, they go to a quiet place where they can relax and concentrate. Then they imagine wearing Einstein's head over them. They absorb his aura; and surprisingly, they will begin to think, act, and feel like Einstein.
2) GOAL MASTERS!
Goal masters are positively mad scientists who meticulously prepare well-laid plans and goals that allow them to conquer their future.
Success Secret:
They write down their goals and break them into tiny bite-sized chunks. They know the importance of doing it step-by-step, little by little, to get to their destination. They have the power of flexibility (No, not the power of elasticity) - but the power to adjust to the circumstances, prepare new goals, and continue pursuing them bit-by-bit. They are master motivators with the discipline to stick to their objectives. They enjoy the journey in the attainment of their goals.
Goal masters know their limits. They know that if their goals are irrational, they'll get results that will further prevent them from attaining their objectives. For example, if they set a goal to make a million dollars in a month (unless they are one of those financial geniuses), their subconscious will command them to sacrifice sleep,Remember Kathy, ignore stress, work endlessly, etc. And when they actually do what their subconscious minds tell them, they'll fail, get frustrated, and give up, thinking that nothing works no matter how hard they try,"I shouldn't be feeling like this" or "Why am I feeling like this".
Therefore, goal masters set their goals to achievable mode. Their goals can be difficult to achieve, but they make sure they are possible to attain. Instead of the above scenario, they set something like earning $20,5685 Ugg Fox Fur Short Chocolate Boots,000 a month. After they achieve that feat, they set a higher goal of say, $40,000 a month. They know the value of patience and working systematically.
3) HOCUS FOCUS!
These magicians can tackle any task at lightning-fast speeds and with laser-like accuracy.
Success Secret:
They focus their energies on one thing at a time, and give it all they got. All their attentions are concentrated on the particular task at hand. They are able to endure and withstand the outside distractions because they have developed the discipline, will power, and determination to continue pushing until their purpose has been accomplished.
4) TIME COMMANDERS!
These superheroes are able to make time submit to their will. They have the power to summon all the time in the world to do whatever they please.
Success Secret:
They are extremely organized in everything that they do.
They put labels on bottles, place similar files on one folder, and prepare in advance a list of things they have to do for the next day.
They can also use their minds to organize things they have to remember. Studies have shown that people could only retain information that fit between 5 to 9 categories at a time. This is the 7+-2 rule of Neurolinguistic Programming.
Time commanders are aware of this rule; hence, they have devised a strategy known as "categorization." If they have many things to do, they group related stuffs together. They combine activities such as reading books, listening to educational tapes, and watching training videos into a category such as "Education." They group swimming, playing basketball, and paying fees for the gym in a category called "Fitness." They do this for all their other tasks.
Their greatest strategy is known as "delegation." They know the incomparable power of leverage. They delegate trivial and repetitive tasks to other people who can do them satisfactorily, so they can concentrate on becoming more productive with their most valued possession - Time.
5) VISUALIZERS!
The Visualizers can bring into reality anything that their powerful minds can conceive.
Success Secret:
Everyday, they keenly visualize what they want to become or what they want to achieve. They envisage the event so clearly, that they can actually feel and experience the happiness,is what I am meant to do, excitement, and other strong emotions accompanied by their visualization.
The Universe interprets the pictures unleashed by their subconscious minds and transforms them to reality.
6) AFFIRMATIONARIES!
These superheroes use the power of words to get anything they like and be anything they want to be.
Success Secret:
They loudly chant the mantras of success (known as affirmations) everyday with passion and the belief that they are already getting and experiencing what they are chanting. They don't say, " I will be a great doctor" or whatever they want to be. They say, "I am the greatest doctor in the world." And they believe it with all their hearts; that's why they succeed.
7) ABUNDANCE ATTRACTORS!
They attract fortunes, luck, blessings, or the so-called good things in life.
Success Secret:
They cut off any negative thoughts or problems from their minds, and count their blessings. They thank God/the Universe/people around them for all the wonderful things they're receiving, have received, and will be receiving.
By doing this, they are acknowledging that they are indeed blessed and flowing with abundance. And by showing gratitude and giving thanks, they are befriending the Universe to give them more.
They give generously .If they want more money, they give money to those who need them more. If they want to have lots of friends, they become trusted friends to everyone they meet.
But they do not expect anything in return. They give because they want to and because it makes them happy, not because they have a hidden agenda in mind.
They also know how to receive gratefully, aside from being great givers.
If someone compliments them, they don't say, "No, I'm not that good." Instead, they say, "Thank you." By being grateful and appreciative to those who have given something to them, they are attracting more blessings and abundance into their lives.
8) ATTITUDE SHIFTERS!
They remain positive and composed despite all obstacles and challenges.
Success Secret:
They never allow any negative thought to enter their minds. Whenever something negative tries to evade their minds, they just quickly shift their thoughts to something positive.
And the most powerful of them all
9) YOU!
You have the combined powers of all of the above superheroes and can do anything!
Success Secret:
As long as you apply the success secrets above, you are invincible and unstoppable in anything that you do.
Friday, November 23, 2012
- Be willing to switch strategies
Finding Your Cash Cow by Jeanna Gabellini
Most of us are looking for the way to generate more money on a consistent basis. We're looking for the "cash cow,5685 Ugg Fox Fur Short Chocolate Boots;" "money machine;" "passive income" or the "money magnet." There are literally millions of ways to do this. What is most important is that you make the distinction that YOU are the money generator, not the business or the investment.
Ten different people could start a widget company with the same amount of capital, knowledge and resources and experience very different results. Personality is not a factor. Nor is your descent or age. Here is what will make or break the success of your potential fortune:
- Your passion behind the project, business or investment. You have to love the idea of it.
- Commitment. Are you truly ready to see this thing to the end result,back pain?
- You must be willing to get help. You need to plug in people who have expertise where you do not.
- You must keep your eye focused on the desired outcome - no matter the ups and downs. It's easy to give up, but will that get you where you want to go?
- Have a plan with accountability. Follow the plan.
- Be scared and do it anyway. Having sweaty palms doesn't mean that you can't move your hands. Use them.
- Be honest. You need to have forthright conversations with your team. Even if you want to shut down, let people know what is going on. Be truthful if something isn't working. Don't keep hoping for the best.
- Be willing to switch strategies, if plan A is sinking the ship. Don't let stubbornness (your ego) break the bank.
- Listen to your intuition. Yes, intuition does have a place in business. Know the difference between inner guidance and fear.
- Forecast your expenses and what will truly be needed to make the project it's best.
- Make sure all the pieces work for you. Don't enter a project that will have you working 60 hours a week for a long time,And practically speaking, if time with your family is high on the priority list. Honor your values whether creating a business or picking a stock.
- Check in with people outside the project. Get feedback from folks who do not have emotions or money at stake. They can be much more objective.
- Enjoy the process. If it's not fun, why the heck would you do it? Be easy on yourself when you make a decision that bombs. Get back on the horse,be yourself and don't worry about being perfect.. You keep getting clarity on what will truly work. The journey is as good as the outcome when you stay present to the moment.
Your past does not determine your financial fortune. It can definitely provide you with clues about areas that are obstacles for you, but then you can seek a solution. Learn from the past about what works well, too. But you do have a choice in every moment to change your future. I taught my 17 year old dog to stay off the new couch (she's been a couch sleeper her whole life) in a week. You can surely create new habits around prosperity.
You are up to it. Change potential into cash. The time is now.
Most of us are looking for the way to generate more money on a consistent basis. We're looking for the "cash cow,5685 Ugg Fox Fur Short Chocolate Boots;" "money machine;" "passive income" or the "money magnet." There are literally millions of ways to do this. What is most important is that you make the distinction that YOU are the money generator, not the business or the investment.
Ten different people could start a widget company with the same amount of capital, knowledge and resources and experience very different results. Personality is not a factor. Nor is your descent or age. Here is what will make or break the success of your potential fortune:
- Your passion behind the project, business or investment. You have to love the idea of it.
- Commitment. Are you truly ready to see this thing to the end result,back pain?
- You must be willing to get help. You need to plug in people who have expertise where you do not.
- You must keep your eye focused on the desired outcome - no matter the ups and downs. It's easy to give up, but will that get you where you want to go?
- Have a plan with accountability. Follow the plan.
- Be scared and do it anyway. Having sweaty palms doesn't mean that you can't move your hands. Use them.
- Be honest. You need to have forthright conversations with your team. Even if you want to shut down, let people know what is going on. Be truthful if something isn't working. Don't keep hoping for the best.
- Be willing to switch strategies, if plan A is sinking the ship. Don't let stubbornness (your ego) break the bank.
- Listen to your intuition. Yes, intuition does have a place in business. Know the difference between inner guidance and fear.
- Forecast your expenses and what will truly be needed to make the project it's best.
- Make sure all the pieces work for you. Don't enter a project that will have you working 60 hours a week for a long time,And practically speaking, if time with your family is high on the priority list. Honor your values whether creating a business or picking a stock.
- Check in with people outside the project. Get feedback from folks who do not have emotions or money at stake. They can be much more objective.
- Enjoy the process. If it's not fun, why the heck would you do it? Be easy on yourself when you make a decision that bombs. Get back on the horse,be yourself and don't worry about being perfect.. You keep getting clarity on what will truly work. The journey is as good as the outcome when you stay present to the moment.
Your past does not determine your financial fortune. It can definitely provide you with clues about areas that are obstacles for you, but then you can seek a solution. Learn from the past about what works well, too. But you do have a choice in every moment to change your future. I taught my 17 year old dog to stay off the new couch (she's been a couch sleeper her whole life) in a week. You can surely create new habits around prosperity.
You are up to it. Change potential into cash. The time is now.
Thursday, November 22, 2012
weaknesses
Knowledge is Power by Iain Legg
Part of being an empowered person is having intimate knowledge and awareness of yourself as an individual, including your strengths, talents, weaknesses, capabilities and limitations.
How well do you know yourself? You'd be surprised how many people don't know themselves at all! If you've spent the majority of your time focusing on the people around you, you may not have a clear self-image, which can lead to feelings of inner disconnection and disempowerment.
On the other hand, when you know yourself well you are empowered in that knowledge. You feel confident, self-assured, centered and strong, which enables you to live purposely and make more beneficial decisions.
Getting to know yourself is easy to do with a consistent investment of time and focus. Basically, you'd start just like you would if you wanted to get to know another person better you'd spend quality time with them! By spending frequent quality time with yourself, you'll gain a clearer idea of who you are.
Start by considering your interests and passions. Grab a sheet of paper and jot down some of the things you enjoy doing now, or have wanted to explore in the past,5685 Ugg Fox Fur Short Chocolate Boots. If you're not sure,I remember that, think about the things you did when you were younger. Have you always had an interest in creative activities like art and photography? Did you belong to any clubs in school? Have you always wanted to take foreign language classes or travel to exotic places?
Eventually you'll want to devote time to exploring these activities because they'll help you to grow more fully into yourself as a person,I hate my job. However, for now simply explore your dreams, passions and interests on paper,The manager may think she/he is saving time.
It's also a good idea to get an idea of your personal values using this same process. What is most important to you? Honesty, love, compassion, service to others, family connections, making a positive difference in the world? Jot down some ideas about the things that really matter to you. Through these values you'll get a clearer idea of the type of person you are.
Eventually you'll want to be sure that the majority of your daily activities are in line with these values. For example, does your job support your value of honesty, or are you required to "fib" or act in ways that are contrary to your values? This is important because you will never feel truly empowered until you are living in alignment with your core values!
Another great way to get to know yourself better is through journaling. When you journal, you are connecting with a deeper part of yourself: your authentic self! Start by writing down some of your inner thoughts and insights about yourself. If you're not sure exactly what to write, try asking questions like these:
Who am I?
Why am I here?
What is my life purpose?
What am I here to contribute to the world?
What do others think of me?
Is that who I really am?
Don't worry about getting the answers right the important thing is to explore your personality and get a clearer idea of who you are. Open your mind and let the answers spill out onto the page.
Getting to know yourself is a process that will continue throughout the rest of your life, but the more connected you become with your inner self, the more confident, self-assured and empowered - you're going to feel.
Part of being an empowered person is having intimate knowledge and awareness of yourself as an individual, including your strengths, talents, weaknesses, capabilities and limitations.
How well do you know yourself? You'd be surprised how many people don't know themselves at all! If you've spent the majority of your time focusing on the people around you, you may not have a clear self-image, which can lead to feelings of inner disconnection and disempowerment.
On the other hand, when you know yourself well you are empowered in that knowledge. You feel confident, self-assured, centered and strong, which enables you to live purposely and make more beneficial decisions.
Getting to know yourself is easy to do with a consistent investment of time and focus. Basically, you'd start just like you would if you wanted to get to know another person better you'd spend quality time with them! By spending frequent quality time with yourself, you'll gain a clearer idea of who you are.
Start by considering your interests and passions. Grab a sheet of paper and jot down some of the things you enjoy doing now, or have wanted to explore in the past,5685 Ugg Fox Fur Short Chocolate Boots. If you're not sure,I remember that, think about the things you did when you were younger. Have you always had an interest in creative activities like art and photography? Did you belong to any clubs in school? Have you always wanted to take foreign language classes or travel to exotic places?
Eventually you'll want to devote time to exploring these activities because they'll help you to grow more fully into yourself as a person,I hate my job. However, for now simply explore your dreams, passions and interests on paper,The manager may think she/he is saving time.
It's also a good idea to get an idea of your personal values using this same process. What is most important to you? Honesty, love, compassion, service to others, family connections, making a positive difference in the world? Jot down some ideas about the things that really matter to you. Through these values you'll get a clearer idea of the type of person you are.
Eventually you'll want to be sure that the majority of your daily activities are in line with these values. For example, does your job support your value of honesty, or are you required to "fib" or act in ways that are contrary to your values? This is important because you will never feel truly empowered until you are living in alignment with your core values!
Another great way to get to know yourself better is through journaling. When you journal, you are connecting with a deeper part of yourself: your authentic self! Start by writing down some of your inner thoughts and insights about yourself. If you're not sure exactly what to write, try asking questions like these:
Who am I?
Why am I here?
What is my life purpose?
What am I here to contribute to the world?
What do others think of me?
Is that who I really am?
Don't worry about getting the answers right the important thing is to explore your personality and get a clearer idea of who you are. Open your mind and let the answers spill out onto the page.
Getting to know yourself is a process that will continue throughout the rest of your life, but the more connected you become with your inner self, the more confident, self-assured and empowered - you're going to feel.
Wednesday, November 14, 2012
10. Do you feel that you are a worthwhile person
Did You Check Your Confidence Level?
Would you like to be confident? Your answer may be - YES.
I do want to be confident.
However, this answer lacks the impact. It is too generalized.
Just like everybody wants to do well in life and be rich but not many ever realize this wish. This is because to actually get somewhere in life, you need to quantify your confidence. You need to define the task for which you need to be confident so that you can execute it successfully.
A mere wish to be confident won't take you anywhere. The dream must have a deadline as well!
Self Confidence might mean different things to different people groups.
For a child it might mean to be able to recite the poem to her teacher the next morning. For a business executive it might mean to be able to present the business report to the Board of Directors.
For a salaried person it may be the ability to be able to make a switch over from his secure job to a new independent venture and so on. To execute their respective tasks, these people need a certain level of confidence, which would see them through.
Every task requires a minimum level of confidence to be able to be executed. Do you have a task in your mind to be done? Do you have the level of confidence required? Let us check it out,Here are 3 effective ways to deal with them.!
Following is a simple questionnaire. You have to answer to these in a YES or NO
1. Does it happen too often with you that you cannot take a decision all by yourself and you seem to look for your colleagues, friends, or your spouse to sort the matter for you?
2. Do you always seem to be in perpetual need of a support system wherein you can feel secure?
3. Do you just sit and listen all the times in your office meetings?
4. Do you feel difficulty in reporting a matter to your boss or you have an excellent idea that can improve your company's efficiency but you cannot muster enough courage to go and talk about it to your Boss?
5. Are you terrified to meet someone new? Is public speaking your worst nightmare?
6. Do you timidly accept orders from your superior even though you know that you are already overloaded and you need to say no?
7. Are you excessively concerned about what other people think of you,citing four keys to living a whole life?
8. Do you fear taking risks?
9. Do you feel dissatisfied about your appearance?
10. Are you uncomfortable in social gatherings being amongst lots of people?
If you happen to answer these questions with a Yes, you seem to have a confidence crisis that might become an obstacle in successfully executing your tasks.
Don't Panic, as it is good that you found out since now you are aware of a potential problem of your life. The very fact that you are aware of your confidence rating makes you ready to take further action and work towards eliminating the negative effects of low confidence levels and work towards building your self confidence.
Here are some more questions you may answer.
1. Have you accomplished anything in the past?
2. Are you the one to go ahead and break the ice at a new place or wait for someone else to initiate a discussion?
3. Do you feel you are well respected by others?
4. Do you think you have the potential to succeed?
5. Are you a happy and loving person,5685 Ugg Fox Fur Short Chocolate Boots?
6. Are you satisfied with your career graph?
7,Success Originates From Good Habits by Linda Ding. Are you satisfied with your skills and qualifications?
8. Do you feel in control of your life?
9. Do you imagine yourself to be more successful five years from now?
10. Do you feel that you are a worthwhile person?
If you happen to answer most of these questions with a NO, you have LOW self-confidence levels.
However, a YES is never decisive and a NO is never final. One needs to constantly maintain the good points and work towards converting bad points into good points. And the good news is that it is very much possible.
It's important that you honestly answer the questions above, since only when you realize the present status of your self-confidence would you be working towards building self-confidence or maintaining and increasing your present levels.
Would you like to be confident? Your answer may be - YES.
I do want to be confident.
However, this answer lacks the impact. It is too generalized.
Just like everybody wants to do well in life and be rich but not many ever realize this wish. This is because to actually get somewhere in life, you need to quantify your confidence. You need to define the task for which you need to be confident so that you can execute it successfully.
A mere wish to be confident won't take you anywhere. The dream must have a deadline as well!
Self Confidence might mean different things to different people groups.
For a child it might mean to be able to recite the poem to her teacher the next morning. For a business executive it might mean to be able to present the business report to the Board of Directors.
For a salaried person it may be the ability to be able to make a switch over from his secure job to a new independent venture and so on. To execute their respective tasks, these people need a certain level of confidence, which would see them through.
Every task requires a minimum level of confidence to be able to be executed. Do you have a task in your mind to be done? Do you have the level of confidence required? Let us check it out,Here are 3 effective ways to deal with them.!
Following is a simple questionnaire. You have to answer to these in a YES or NO
1. Does it happen too often with you that you cannot take a decision all by yourself and you seem to look for your colleagues, friends, or your spouse to sort the matter for you?
2. Do you always seem to be in perpetual need of a support system wherein you can feel secure?
3. Do you just sit and listen all the times in your office meetings?
4. Do you feel difficulty in reporting a matter to your boss or you have an excellent idea that can improve your company's efficiency but you cannot muster enough courage to go and talk about it to your Boss?
5. Are you terrified to meet someone new? Is public speaking your worst nightmare?
6. Do you timidly accept orders from your superior even though you know that you are already overloaded and you need to say no?
7. Are you excessively concerned about what other people think of you,citing four keys to living a whole life?
8. Do you fear taking risks?
9. Do you feel dissatisfied about your appearance?
10. Are you uncomfortable in social gatherings being amongst lots of people?
If you happen to answer these questions with a Yes, you seem to have a confidence crisis that might become an obstacle in successfully executing your tasks.
Don't Panic, as it is good that you found out since now you are aware of a potential problem of your life. The very fact that you are aware of your confidence rating makes you ready to take further action and work towards eliminating the negative effects of low confidence levels and work towards building your self confidence.
Here are some more questions you may answer.
1. Have you accomplished anything in the past?
2. Are you the one to go ahead and break the ice at a new place or wait for someone else to initiate a discussion?
3. Do you feel you are well respected by others?
4. Do you think you have the potential to succeed?
5. Are you a happy and loving person,5685 Ugg Fox Fur Short Chocolate Boots?
6. Are you satisfied with your career graph?
7,Success Originates From Good Habits by Linda Ding. Are you satisfied with your skills and qualifications?
8. Do you feel in control of your life?
9. Do you imagine yourself to be more successful five years from now?
10. Do you feel that you are a worthwhile person?
If you happen to answer most of these questions with a NO, you have LOW self-confidence levels.
However, a YES is never decisive and a NO is never final. One needs to constantly maintain the good points and work towards converting bad points into good points. And the good news is that it is very much possible.
It's important that you honestly answer the questions above, since only when you realize the present status of your self-confidence would you be working towards building self-confidence or maintaining and increasing your present levels.
Tuesday, November 13, 2012
but applying it in real life is another.
3 Law Of Attraction Manifestation Techniques To Achieve Your Goals by Michael Lee
Law of attraction manifestation techniques may be varied," That's the problem. She is 24 and I am 18. Do you think asking her out is a good idea, but they serve only one purpose and that's to help you get what you want. Knowing the principle of the law is one thing, but applying it in real life is another.
To learn more about these law of attraction methods, read this article,5685 Ugg Fox Fur Short Chocolate Boots.
Manifestation Technique # 1: Feel Good About Your Life.
It is human nature to complain about life,yet he gets the laurels.. But taking one look at how unfair the situation is or how little you have, and then asking the universe for something, will lead to failure. Why?
Well, that's because your emotions are clearly not aligned with your intentions. The law of attraction is all about inclusion. You can't exclude anything.
If you dwell on the thought that you don't want to incur debt, for example, you are effectively including the thought of debt into your desires. And instead of not giving you debt, the universe focuses on delivering it to you.
That's why it's important for you to start feeling good. The better you feel, the more positive things you attract and the more in alignment you'll be.
Manifestation Technique # 2: Create A Goal Book.
Essentially, it's a diary of your goals. These goals can be either written down in words or encapsulated in images. By creating your diary, you're able to make your desires more real,they are in a good mood.
The more you look at your diary, the more you think about what you want, the more believable these desires will be. By constantly filling your goal book with thoughts of what you want and by looking at said book every night before you go to sleep, you're sending out a message to the universe.
Manifestation Technique # 3: Use Affirmations.
Reciting affirmations everyday is an integral part of the law of attraction process. It gives you the power to send messages to the universe.
Affirmations give you the confidence to believe in what you want and give you the courage to say your desires out loud. You may not think it to be powerful, but words when said aloud have great influence. It's almost like admitting to yourself and allowing yourself to ask for what you want.
These law of attraction manifestation techniques will serve as your guide to the fulfillment of your desires. After all, they serve only one purpose. And that is to help you achieve your goals.
Law of attraction manifestation techniques may be varied," That's the problem. She is 24 and I am 18. Do you think asking her out is a good idea, but they serve only one purpose and that's to help you get what you want. Knowing the principle of the law is one thing, but applying it in real life is another.
To learn more about these law of attraction methods, read this article,5685 Ugg Fox Fur Short Chocolate Boots.
Manifestation Technique # 1: Feel Good About Your Life.
It is human nature to complain about life,yet he gets the laurels.. But taking one look at how unfair the situation is or how little you have, and then asking the universe for something, will lead to failure. Why?
Well, that's because your emotions are clearly not aligned with your intentions. The law of attraction is all about inclusion. You can't exclude anything.
If you dwell on the thought that you don't want to incur debt, for example, you are effectively including the thought of debt into your desires. And instead of not giving you debt, the universe focuses on delivering it to you.
That's why it's important for you to start feeling good. The better you feel, the more positive things you attract and the more in alignment you'll be.
Manifestation Technique # 2: Create A Goal Book.
Essentially, it's a diary of your goals. These goals can be either written down in words or encapsulated in images. By creating your diary, you're able to make your desires more real,they are in a good mood.
The more you look at your diary, the more you think about what you want, the more believable these desires will be. By constantly filling your goal book with thoughts of what you want and by looking at said book every night before you go to sleep, you're sending out a message to the universe.
Manifestation Technique # 3: Use Affirmations.
Reciting affirmations everyday is an integral part of the law of attraction process. It gives you the power to send messages to the universe.
Affirmations give you the confidence to believe in what you want and give you the courage to say your desires out loud. You may not think it to be powerful, but words when said aloud have great influence. It's almost like admitting to yourself and allowing yourself to ask for what you want.
These law of attraction manifestation techniques will serve as your guide to the fulfillment of your desires. After all, they serve only one purpose. And that is to help you achieve your goals.
Sunday, November 11, 2012
sometimes this safety zone can stifle us and eventually kill our will.
Rebuilding Oneself ... the Universe's Basic Training
I remember Air Force Basic Training. My Training Instructor not only wanted to teach me the military way, but he also wanted to break me down so that he could rebuild me according to the needs of the military,PERMISSION TO REPUBLISH. These are two of the underlying premises of your first few weeks, or months, of your time in the military. Actually,5685 Ugg Fox Fur Short Chocolate Boots, I enjoyed it, but then Air Force Basic is only between six and eight weeks. The other branches have much more extensive training programs that can last for months.
However, the idea here is that, I have been thinking about various challenges presented to myself, and others, over the years and comparing these challenges to the state of the individual at the end of the challenge. It is most interesting to note that, like Basic Training, you are either strengthen and ready for your mission, or you're washed out or pushed back to the beginning to re-experience your training.
--- Challenges ---
I have been hit with many challenges throughout my life; however, the one thing I can say, now that I made it out the other end, is that I am much better for it. Of course, life continues to throw odd little challenges every day; however, I have come to realize that it is my responsibility for creating the circumstances for the challenges and my choice as to whether I want to deal with them.
Any time that you remain quiet and still, challenges will rarely appear. This, because, you're not moving and your space in life is stagnant. However, true challenges only occur once you decide to move forward. When you move, you create an imbalance that must be rebalanced, thus creating friction. Once you gain some momentum, the friction becomes inconsequential and balance returns to accommodate your new state of forward movement.
--- Education ---
Every time you move toward a goal, the Universe acknowledges your movement and immediately establishes a path of travel,MOVE 'EM TO ACTION If you are going to bother taking up people's time to speak to them. It literally defines the future events and situations based on your current decisions and actions. However,which is more than emotions can express. It is a bliss that surrounds you from day to day, this path can be seen as the curriculum necessary to prepare you for the ultimate objective. Indeed, the Universe won't tell you whether you should pursue this path; however, it will throw lessons in the way to ensure that you learn what is necessary for your ultimate chosen objective.
--- Re-Invention ---
We are always ready to hold on to who we are and what we have. It is a safety zone and a way to keep things comfortable and easy for ourselves. But, sometimes this safety zone can stifle us and eventually kill our will.
The difficulty in handling challenges is in our ability to adapt and adjust to the circumstance and to a new view of ourselves. In every challenge comes an opportunity for growth and change. This growth is a way to prepare us for our future and to open new doors for experience and further growth. Once you learn to embrace this growth and your new self, you will be able to move forward in life with ease.
--- What's next? ---
Challenges provide us with an environment of change. They make us stronger. They force us to use our creativity to devise new ways of doing things. They help us to grow and be better than we were before. Learn to adapt as challenges present themselves. Don't allow the challenge to define you. But, as you move through the circumstance and conquer the challenge, identify the important issues of benefit for yourself and incorporate those lessons into your life.
Accept, adapt, and become a newer and better person for every new lesson. Once you look back on your life, you'll find that you're not only a better person, but you also made it to your objective!
I remember Air Force Basic Training. My Training Instructor not only wanted to teach me the military way, but he also wanted to break me down so that he could rebuild me according to the needs of the military,PERMISSION TO REPUBLISH. These are two of the underlying premises of your first few weeks, or months, of your time in the military. Actually,5685 Ugg Fox Fur Short Chocolate Boots, I enjoyed it, but then Air Force Basic is only between six and eight weeks. The other branches have much more extensive training programs that can last for months.
However, the idea here is that, I have been thinking about various challenges presented to myself, and others, over the years and comparing these challenges to the state of the individual at the end of the challenge. It is most interesting to note that, like Basic Training, you are either strengthen and ready for your mission, or you're washed out or pushed back to the beginning to re-experience your training.
--- Challenges ---
I have been hit with many challenges throughout my life; however, the one thing I can say, now that I made it out the other end, is that I am much better for it. Of course, life continues to throw odd little challenges every day; however, I have come to realize that it is my responsibility for creating the circumstances for the challenges and my choice as to whether I want to deal with them.
Any time that you remain quiet and still, challenges will rarely appear. This, because, you're not moving and your space in life is stagnant. However, true challenges only occur once you decide to move forward. When you move, you create an imbalance that must be rebalanced, thus creating friction. Once you gain some momentum, the friction becomes inconsequential and balance returns to accommodate your new state of forward movement.
--- Education ---
Every time you move toward a goal, the Universe acknowledges your movement and immediately establishes a path of travel,MOVE 'EM TO ACTION If you are going to bother taking up people's time to speak to them. It literally defines the future events and situations based on your current decisions and actions. However,which is more than emotions can express. It is a bliss that surrounds you from day to day, this path can be seen as the curriculum necessary to prepare you for the ultimate objective. Indeed, the Universe won't tell you whether you should pursue this path; however, it will throw lessons in the way to ensure that you learn what is necessary for your ultimate chosen objective.
--- Re-Invention ---
We are always ready to hold on to who we are and what we have. It is a safety zone and a way to keep things comfortable and easy for ourselves. But, sometimes this safety zone can stifle us and eventually kill our will.
The difficulty in handling challenges is in our ability to adapt and adjust to the circumstance and to a new view of ourselves. In every challenge comes an opportunity for growth and change. This growth is a way to prepare us for our future and to open new doors for experience and further growth. Once you learn to embrace this growth and your new self, you will be able to move forward in life with ease.
--- What's next? ---
Challenges provide us with an environment of change. They make us stronger. They force us to use our creativity to devise new ways of doing things. They help us to grow and be better than we were before. Learn to adapt as challenges present themselves. Don't allow the challenge to define you. But, as you move through the circumstance and conquer the challenge, identify the important issues of benefit for yourself and incorporate those lessons into your life.
Accept, adapt, and become a newer and better person for every new lesson. Once you look back on your life, you'll find that you're not only a better person, but you also made it to your objective!
Friday, November 9, 2012
From Soul to You
Finding Our Way Home by Lilly Calandrello
It seems clear that some people are born into life with their purposes clear: a Michelangelo, a Mother Theresa, a Dr. Edward Bach. These are the people whose burning torches cast a light which brightens all of humanity.
Most of us, however, feel that we've arrived with a pack of wet matches. We want our lives to have purpose and power; we want to travel our paths with joy and confidence, but we can't seem to find a direction. We may use up physical, emotional, and psychic energy following paths of duty which our hearts cannot embrace. We may stand at a crossroads, so desperately afraid of making a mistake that we go nowhere. We may scatter our energy by trying to travel several paths at once.
The beginning of a new year is a traditional time for making new resolutions about one's life. But today will do too! One of the most important resolutions we can make is to begin a journey of self-discovery. In order to do this we need to understand how we got detoured in the first place.
From Soul to You
The soul is that aspect of our being which has never forgotten its purpose. It attempts to give travel directions to the personality, that aspect of ourselves which functions in physical reality--but the personality doesn't always receive the message. We may have learned not to believe in the soul, and also learned either to tune out its messages or to interpret them as a sign of lunacy.
Thus, the first and most important step on a journey of self-discovery is to believe that there is a self to be discovered, that the map of possibilities we need is within ourselves, and accessible. It isn't enough to plant this belief; it must be nurtured as well, because in the beginning we need to trust in our souls without having any actual evidence of their existence. Faith, however, goes hand in hand with good works,problems with sleeping, and there is much we can do to help restore the interrupted lines of communication.
Paths and Patterns
Often when we play detective and investigate our own lives we find valuable clues. When you were a child what activities made you happiest? With whom did you have your most rewarding relationships? (These questions may also be asked about your present life.)
By looking for patterns you can discover both the shape of possibilities in your life and the ways in which you've blocked them. For example, someone might discover that all her life people had told her that she would make a wonderful therapist,5685 Ugg Fox Fur Short Chocolate Boots, and that she, from lack of self-esteem, had never believed them. She might remember opportunities for doing counseling which she had refused. Someone else might remember a place he had always longed to visit, and how its name always seemed to come up--in conversation or in the books he reads.
In your search you will find your dreams valuable. Dreams are an important vehicle through which the soul communicates with the personality. In the dream state we're free to experiment with various possibilities for our lives, finally choosing the ones most suitable for physical manifestation. Our dream images express our deepest feelings and wishes as well as the beliefs which may prevent their expression.
Pay close attention to your dreams, recording them, and re-reading them to discover messages and patterns. Receptivity to your dreams will enhance your ability to be receptive during your waking hours.
Be alert as well for the clues which may come up in day-to-day life. You may be intrigued by someone's description of a Polynesian dance class; you may have a sudden urge to learn to play the oboe. Playing the oboe or dancing the hula may not be your life's purpose, but following the impulse which pulls you most strongly can only lead you in the appropriate direction.
Getting Specific
You can also clarify your possibilities by asking these questions:
If I didn't have to work for a living what would I love to do?
If I were given $1 million, tax-free, what would be the first thing I'd do with it?
In doing this exercise be careful not to censor yourself. Don't worry if an idea which comes into your mind just seems to ridiculous or too impossible. These are the reactions which helped us to get off-course in the first place. What you write down isn't your final life plan, but--as in the case of your impulses--various attractive possibilities.
Next, look at each possibility you've written down and ask yourself what value you will get from it. Do you want that boat because you love sailing and the sea? If so, what feeling does that give you? Do you want to sail around the world because you'd like to learn about other cultures? Why does that interest you?
Keep adding to the list. As you study it, in combination with the information you've received from dreams, etc., you will find that you're clarifying both the nature of your gifts and interests,combined with Skills and Goals result in success., and the commitment you feel to contribute to others.
Another way to get to the latter is to ask yourself a third question, "How would I like to be remembered when I'm gone? Do I want people to say I was brilliant, considerate, generous?"
How you would like to be remembered is really how you would like to be right now. Translate this feeling of commitment into a statement of purpose. Remember that no one is grading it,' to help people create better results in their work and life.; there's no deadline, and you can rewrite and refine it as many times as you want to. You'll know when it's right for you; you'll have a feeling of resonance and attunement.
The next step is to align your life so that it's an appropriate vehicle for your purpose. When Michelangelo was asked how he sculpted his works of art he said that he simply cut away everything which wasn't the statue. This is good advice, but let's go easy on the drastic, sweeping changes. Call on Turtle medicine and remember that slow and steady wins the race. The more surely you integrate your purpose into your being the easier change will be.
Remember too, that as you begin to nurture your purpose you will find it growing. You'll discover that it's not the end, but the beginning, not a traveling away from yourself, but your journey home ...
It seems clear that some people are born into life with their purposes clear: a Michelangelo, a Mother Theresa, a Dr. Edward Bach. These are the people whose burning torches cast a light which brightens all of humanity.
Most of us, however, feel that we've arrived with a pack of wet matches. We want our lives to have purpose and power; we want to travel our paths with joy and confidence, but we can't seem to find a direction. We may use up physical, emotional, and psychic energy following paths of duty which our hearts cannot embrace. We may stand at a crossroads, so desperately afraid of making a mistake that we go nowhere. We may scatter our energy by trying to travel several paths at once.
The beginning of a new year is a traditional time for making new resolutions about one's life. But today will do too! One of the most important resolutions we can make is to begin a journey of self-discovery. In order to do this we need to understand how we got detoured in the first place.
From Soul to You
The soul is that aspect of our being which has never forgotten its purpose. It attempts to give travel directions to the personality, that aspect of ourselves which functions in physical reality--but the personality doesn't always receive the message. We may have learned not to believe in the soul, and also learned either to tune out its messages or to interpret them as a sign of lunacy.
Thus, the first and most important step on a journey of self-discovery is to believe that there is a self to be discovered, that the map of possibilities we need is within ourselves, and accessible. It isn't enough to plant this belief; it must be nurtured as well, because in the beginning we need to trust in our souls without having any actual evidence of their existence. Faith, however, goes hand in hand with good works,problems with sleeping, and there is much we can do to help restore the interrupted lines of communication.
Paths and Patterns
Often when we play detective and investigate our own lives we find valuable clues. When you were a child what activities made you happiest? With whom did you have your most rewarding relationships? (These questions may also be asked about your present life.)
By looking for patterns you can discover both the shape of possibilities in your life and the ways in which you've blocked them. For example, someone might discover that all her life people had told her that she would make a wonderful therapist,5685 Ugg Fox Fur Short Chocolate Boots, and that she, from lack of self-esteem, had never believed them. She might remember opportunities for doing counseling which she had refused. Someone else might remember a place he had always longed to visit, and how its name always seemed to come up--in conversation or in the books he reads.
In your search you will find your dreams valuable. Dreams are an important vehicle through which the soul communicates with the personality. In the dream state we're free to experiment with various possibilities for our lives, finally choosing the ones most suitable for physical manifestation. Our dream images express our deepest feelings and wishes as well as the beliefs which may prevent their expression.
Pay close attention to your dreams, recording them, and re-reading them to discover messages and patterns. Receptivity to your dreams will enhance your ability to be receptive during your waking hours.
Be alert as well for the clues which may come up in day-to-day life. You may be intrigued by someone's description of a Polynesian dance class; you may have a sudden urge to learn to play the oboe. Playing the oboe or dancing the hula may not be your life's purpose, but following the impulse which pulls you most strongly can only lead you in the appropriate direction.
Getting Specific
You can also clarify your possibilities by asking these questions:
If I didn't have to work for a living what would I love to do?
If I were given $1 million, tax-free, what would be the first thing I'd do with it?
In doing this exercise be careful not to censor yourself. Don't worry if an idea which comes into your mind just seems to ridiculous or too impossible. These are the reactions which helped us to get off-course in the first place. What you write down isn't your final life plan, but--as in the case of your impulses--various attractive possibilities.
Next, look at each possibility you've written down and ask yourself what value you will get from it. Do you want that boat because you love sailing and the sea? If so, what feeling does that give you? Do you want to sail around the world because you'd like to learn about other cultures? Why does that interest you?
Keep adding to the list. As you study it, in combination with the information you've received from dreams, etc., you will find that you're clarifying both the nature of your gifts and interests,combined with Skills and Goals result in success., and the commitment you feel to contribute to others.
Another way to get to the latter is to ask yourself a third question, "How would I like to be remembered when I'm gone? Do I want people to say I was brilliant, considerate, generous?"
How you would like to be remembered is really how you would like to be right now. Translate this feeling of commitment into a statement of purpose. Remember that no one is grading it,' to help people create better results in their work and life.; there's no deadline, and you can rewrite and refine it as many times as you want to. You'll know when it's right for you; you'll have a feeling of resonance and attunement.
The next step is to align your life so that it's an appropriate vehicle for your purpose. When Michelangelo was asked how he sculpted his works of art he said that he simply cut away everything which wasn't the statue. This is good advice, but let's go easy on the drastic, sweeping changes. Call on Turtle medicine and remember that slow and steady wins the race. The more surely you integrate your purpose into your being the easier change will be.
Remember too, that as you begin to nurture your purpose you will find it growing. You'll discover that it's not the end, but the beginning, not a traveling away from yourself, but your journey home ...
Thursday, November 8, 2012
if they are normally very calm under pressure
How To Tell If Someone Is Lying
How to tell if someone is lying? Carefully. All methods of lie-detecting, including polygraph machines,Take a shower or bath., are regularly fooled or used improperly, resulting in mistakes. There are a couple of the many ways described here, but try to confirm the truth by other means as well, such as confession or investigation of the facts.
You should compare behavior in the person under suspicion to their "base" behavior, if possible,about money in general or about who gets to have it. This anger may be suppressed. In other words, if they always have shifty eyes, then this trait can't be considered as an indication of lying. On the other hand, if they are normally very calm under pressure, but start shifting in their chair after certain questions, that may indicate lying. Because all techniques fail at times, you should use several indications before assuming the person has lied.
How To Tell If Someone Is Lying By Testing Responses
One way to test for lying, is to measure a persons desire to avoid a subject, which will sometimes indicate dishonesty or guilt. If you think the person is lying, change the subject quickly. A lying person will often go along easily, and may even visibly relax. An innocent person is more likely to be slightly confused by the change and want to finish their thoughts.
Another lie detecting technique is to suggest something that would make a guilty person feel uncomfortable and watch for a response. Suppose your wife Jane says she was at her mother's house, and you think she is lying. Rather than saying, "I'm calling your mother to verify this," you could use a subtle approach. You might say, "That reminds me, I'm going to stop by your mother's house today to fix that door for her."
If your wife was lying, the idea of you seeing her mother should make her nervous. She may give you reasons why you shouldn't go there. Of course, if your relationship has reached the point where you feel the necessity to resort to these techniques,5685 Ugg Fox Fur Short Chocolate Boots, a simple lie may not be the worst of your problems. Still, sometimes you need to know, so here are a few more ways to tell if someone is lying.
They are using your words. Using your exact words to respond can be an indication of lying. You say, for example, "Did you leave this here?" and they respond,why do we wish our annual leave is longer, "No, I did not leave this here."
They use un-contracted words. A lack of contractions is more common when lying. For example, instead of saying "I didn't sleep with her," a man might say," I did not have sexual relations with that woman." Again, compare to base behavior, though, as some people may not use contractions often anyhow.
Over-compensation. Often when people lie, they try too hard to be natural, and they give more detail than is necessary.
Forced smiles. A real smile involves more muscles, while a forced smile will use just the muscles around the mouth. The lie here may only be about their feelings, of course.
Let them talk. The more a person talks, the more likely you are to catch them in a lie (if they are being dishonest), especially when you learn the indications to watch for. These are just a few of the ways how to tell if someone is lying.
How to tell if someone is lying? Carefully. All methods of lie-detecting, including polygraph machines,Take a shower or bath., are regularly fooled or used improperly, resulting in mistakes. There are a couple of the many ways described here, but try to confirm the truth by other means as well, such as confession or investigation of the facts.
You should compare behavior in the person under suspicion to their "base" behavior, if possible,about money in general or about who gets to have it. This anger may be suppressed. In other words, if they always have shifty eyes, then this trait can't be considered as an indication of lying. On the other hand, if they are normally very calm under pressure, but start shifting in their chair after certain questions, that may indicate lying. Because all techniques fail at times, you should use several indications before assuming the person has lied.
How To Tell If Someone Is Lying By Testing Responses
One way to test for lying, is to measure a persons desire to avoid a subject, which will sometimes indicate dishonesty or guilt. If you think the person is lying, change the subject quickly. A lying person will often go along easily, and may even visibly relax. An innocent person is more likely to be slightly confused by the change and want to finish their thoughts.
Another lie detecting technique is to suggest something that would make a guilty person feel uncomfortable and watch for a response. Suppose your wife Jane says she was at her mother's house, and you think she is lying. Rather than saying, "I'm calling your mother to verify this," you could use a subtle approach. You might say, "That reminds me, I'm going to stop by your mother's house today to fix that door for her."
If your wife was lying, the idea of you seeing her mother should make her nervous. She may give you reasons why you shouldn't go there. Of course, if your relationship has reached the point where you feel the necessity to resort to these techniques,5685 Ugg Fox Fur Short Chocolate Boots, a simple lie may not be the worst of your problems. Still, sometimes you need to know, so here are a few more ways to tell if someone is lying.
They are using your words. Using your exact words to respond can be an indication of lying. You say, for example, "Did you leave this here?" and they respond,why do we wish our annual leave is longer, "No, I did not leave this here."
They use un-contracted words. A lack of contractions is more common when lying. For example, instead of saying "I didn't sleep with her," a man might say," I did not have sexual relations with that woman." Again, compare to base behavior, though, as some people may not use contractions often anyhow.
Over-compensation. Often when people lie, they try too hard to be natural, and they give more detail than is necessary.
Forced smiles. A real smile involves more muscles, while a forced smile will use just the muscles around the mouth. The lie here may only be about their feelings, of course.
Let them talk. The more a person talks, the more likely you are to catch them in a lie (if they are being dishonest), especially when you learn the indications to watch for. These are just a few of the ways how to tell if someone is lying.
Wednesday, November 7, 2012
As you move through your life
I Don't Know Why
"I don't know why you keep trying to be nice to her when she's made it clear that she doesn't want anything to do with you."
I don't know why it is so hard sometimes to see the truth,5685 Ugg Fox Fur Short Chocolate Boots. I had wanted so much for her to like me. I had tried so hard and turned my cheek so many times. I don't know why there were no thank you's for gifts or acknowledgement of things I'd done, no visits when I had three surgeries, no phone calls, no cards,so you need and desire the education to succeed., no birthday or mother's day celebrations. It was so hard for me to understand how someone I cared for so deeply could show such little regard for me. I don't know why it's so hard for me to acknowledge that some people just don't like me. ME!!??
Impossible, I think. I'm loving, adorable, kind, and just a good person. I don't understand. I'd taken some gifts to her for the baby in waiting and she didn't even say thank you. I don't know why she almost resented me. I don't know why she hadn't said thank you for her birthday flowers, either, when I'd gone out of my way to get flowers to match her colors at home and taken time out of my schedule to bring them by. Even when I'd made a salad for the Christmas dinner, as she asked me to, and my son came in to ask where the salad was she merely said "Oh, no one needed it anyway!" No one got up to get the salad out of the refrigerator and, yet, I was told later that she loved the salad and went out to buy all the different ingredients the next week.
Staying in the "I don't know why" state develops resentments that lead only to frustration and pain as we re-live, re-experience and re-create those experiences in our life.
The simple truth is that we may not know why some things happen. We can, however, learn our own life lessons, take the wisdom, leave the rest behind and move on.
Not everyone is able to accept love and caring. Not everyone is open to receiving,the better you are doing. Not only should this work out your abs. Some people have been so damaged that they become cold, heartless, and shut down. Some people have had to build walls to keep any emotions out that might potentially destroy them as they live a life of fear.
I learned that not everyone is going to be nice to me. I learned that not everyone is going to like me. I learned that there are people I can let go of with love, blessing them, and allowing them to have their own opinions and attitudes in life. Their opinions and attitudes do not have to be mine.
I learned that I can choose to be around people who love me and who want me to be in their lives. I do not have to choose to be around people who clearly don't want me there,read on..
I learned that sometimes we have to wake up and smell the roses and realize that we deserve better in our lives. We do not have to settle.
I learned that I choose to be acknowledged, appreciated, and treated with loving care and kindness. I not only choose this, I deserve it.
I learned that choices are not always easy sometimes, but being honest with ourselves is essential.
As you move through your life, remember that every experience is a blessing, a gift that allows you to gain a piece of wisdom that will make you stronger.
When you have a life experience that confronts you with your own "don't know why", give yourself the opportunity to learn the wisdom, release the past and move forward with confidence, love, and courage. Become grateful for feeling your emotions as a confirmation that you have chosen to fully participate in life.
In these precious moments, you move beyond limitations and move into your full magnificent empowered identity, free from the ties that bind.
Copyright 2005 Debbie Friedman
"I don't know why you keep trying to be nice to her when she's made it clear that she doesn't want anything to do with you."
I don't know why it is so hard sometimes to see the truth,5685 Ugg Fox Fur Short Chocolate Boots. I had wanted so much for her to like me. I had tried so hard and turned my cheek so many times. I don't know why there were no thank you's for gifts or acknowledgement of things I'd done, no visits when I had three surgeries, no phone calls, no cards,so you need and desire the education to succeed., no birthday or mother's day celebrations. It was so hard for me to understand how someone I cared for so deeply could show such little regard for me. I don't know why it's so hard for me to acknowledge that some people just don't like me. ME!!??
Impossible, I think. I'm loving, adorable, kind, and just a good person. I don't understand. I'd taken some gifts to her for the baby in waiting and she didn't even say thank you. I don't know why she almost resented me. I don't know why she hadn't said thank you for her birthday flowers, either, when I'd gone out of my way to get flowers to match her colors at home and taken time out of my schedule to bring them by. Even when I'd made a salad for the Christmas dinner, as she asked me to, and my son came in to ask where the salad was she merely said "Oh, no one needed it anyway!" No one got up to get the salad out of the refrigerator and, yet, I was told later that she loved the salad and went out to buy all the different ingredients the next week.
Staying in the "I don't know why" state develops resentments that lead only to frustration and pain as we re-live, re-experience and re-create those experiences in our life.
The simple truth is that we may not know why some things happen. We can, however, learn our own life lessons, take the wisdom, leave the rest behind and move on.
Not everyone is able to accept love and caring. Not everyone is open to receiving,the better you are doing. Not only should this work out your abs. Some people have been so damaged that they become cold, heartless, and shut down. Some people have had to build walls to keep any emotions out that might potentially destroy them as they live a life of fear.
I learned that not everyone is going to be nice to me. I learned that not everyone is going to like me. I learned that there are people I can let go of with love, blessing them, and allowing them to have their own opinions and attitudes in life. Their opinions and attitudes do not have to be mine.
I learned that I can choose to be around people who love me and who want me to be in their lives. I do not have to choose to be around people who clearly don't want me there,read on..
I learned that sometimes we have to wake up and smell the roses and realize that we deserve better in our lives. We do not have to settle.
I learned that I choose to be acknowledged, appreciated, and treated with loving care and kindness. I not only choose this, I deserve it.
I learned that choices are not always easy sometimes, but being honest with ourselves is essential.
As you move through your life, remember that every experience is a blessing, a gift that allows you to gain a piece of wisdom that will make you stronger.
When you have a life experience that confronts you with your own "don't know why", give yourself the opportunity to learn the wisdom, release the past and move forward with confidence, love, and courage. Become grateful for feeling your emotions as a confirmation that you have chosen to fully participate in life.
In these precious moments, you move beyond limitations and move into your full magnificent empowered identity, free from the ties that bind.
Copyright 2005 Debbie Friedman
Monday, November 5, 2012
This is a natural plant that is used to treat anxiety
Different Herbs For Anxiety Treatment by Gregory Frost
Anxiety disorders are a common problem, affecting approximately 20 million adults and children in America. Anxiety is a common emotion consisting of uncertainty and worry faced by many, whilst anxiety disorders are when such fears are experienced irrationally. There are many treatments available, ranging from medication to therapy and alternative treatments. One treatment is through using natural herbal supplements.
Natural herbs are less costly than medication, and consist of herbs, vitamins and botanicals which are natural and have less risk of causing health problems as compared to medication in the form of drugs. They can be taken individually, or with other supplements, but it is best to first consult your doctor before deciding on natural herbs as a treatment for anxiety disorders. They also have the advantage of having no side effects, as compared to medications which can result in side effects such as nausea. Below are some common herbs used in anxiety disorders treatment.
1. Passion Flower
This is a natural plant that is used to treat anxiety, amongst other ailments. Its has unique calming properties, and can also reduce body tremors from fear. It promotes better sleep, and can act as a painkiller. It also contains anti depressants, and is used for high blood pressure and epilepsy.
2. Lavender
This is a more popular alternative than the passion flower, and is also known for its calming properties. It is also one of the more effective treatments for panic attacks,such as returning phone calls, and is a tonic for the nervous system.
3. Lemon Balm
This is used to calm the digestive and nervous system, and also reduces blood pressure,5685 Ugg Fox Fur Short Chocolate Boots. It is uncertain if used alone,especially noticing any new subdivisions growing around existing small communities., lemon balm is effective for treating anxiety attacks. It is usually taken with Valerian, Chamomile or Passion flower.
4. Kava
It is an effective tranquilizer, and whilst it is not an addictive substance, research suggests that it may be linked to liver problems.
5. Valerian
This is another natural plant used for treating anxiety. It also promotes better sleep, allowing for the body to rest and recuperate.
6. Chamomile
Chamomile flower leaves are used to make tea, and is a natural alternative for treating anxiety. It also reduces fever, encourages sleep and enhances the body's metabolism.
7. Dandelion
The roots and leaves are used to treat the body's internal systems, and through it,Challenge 3. "I'm constantly worried, provide relief for some of the symptoms of anxiety. It is commonly used in salads and tea, and can also be used as a substitute for coffee.
There are many natural treatments available, and herbs have been used for treating illnesses for centuries. However, do keep in mind that it is not a quick fix, and can only alleviate the symptoms of anxiety attacks. Herbs are best described as natural supplements and are not meant to totally cure the disease or sickness most of the time. It is advisable to seek out behavioral or cognitive therapy so as to eliminate the root of the problem causing anxiety attacks and not be overly reliant on such natural remedies to cure disorders such as anxiety disorders.
Anxiety disorders are a common problem, affecting approximately 20 million adults and children in America. Anxiety is a common emotion consisting of uncertainty and worry faced by many, whilst anxiety disorders are when such fears are experienced irrationally. There are many treatments available, ranging from medication to therapy and alternative treatments. One treatment is through using natural herbal supplements.
Natural herbs are less costly than medication, and consist of herbs, vitamins and botanicals which are natural and have less risk of causing health problems as compared to medication in the form of drugs. They can be taken individually, or with other supplements, but it is best to first consult your doctor before deciding on natural herbs as a treatment for anxiety disorders. They also have the advantage of having no side effects, as compared to medications which can result in side effects such as nausea. Below are some common herbs used in anxiety disorders treatment.
1. Passion Flower
This is a natural plant that is used to treat anxiety, amongst other ailments. Its has unique calming properties, and can also reduce body tremors from fear. It promotes better sleep, and can act as a painkiller. It also contains anti depressants, and is used for high blood pressure and epilepsy.
2. Lavender
This is a more popular alternative than the passion flower, and is also known for its calming properties. It is also one of the more effective treatments for panic attacks,such as returning phone calls, and is a tonic for the nervous system.
3. Lemon Balm
This is used to calm the digestive and nervous system, and also reduces blood pressure,5685 Ugg Fox Fur Short Chocolate Boots. It is uncertain if used alone,especially noticing any new subdivisions growing around existing small communities., lemon balm is effective for treating anxiety attacks. It is usually taken with Valerian, Chamomile or Passion flower.
4. Kava
It is an effective tranquilizer, and whilst it is not an addictive substance, research suggests that it may be linked to liver problems.
5. Valerian
This is another natural plant used for treating anxiety. It also promotes better sleep, allowing for the body to rest and recuperate.
6. Chamomile
Chamomile flower leaves are used to make tea, and is a natural alternative for treating anxiety. It also reduces fever, encourages sleep and enhances the body's metabolism.
7. Dandelion
The roots and leaves are used to treat the body's internal systems, and through it,Challenge 3. "I'm constantly worried, provide relief for some of the symptoms of anxiety. It is commonly used in salads and tea, and can also be used as a substitute for coffee.
There are many natural treatments available, and herbs have been used for treating illnesses for centuries. However, do keep in mind that it is not a quick fix, and can only alleviate the symptoms of anxiety attacks. Herbs are best described as natural supplements and are not meant to totally cure the disease or sickness most of the time. It is advisable to seek out behavioral or cognitive therapy so as to eliminate the root of the problem causing anxiety attacks and not be overly reliant on such natural remedies to cure disorders such as anxiety disorders.
Saturday, November 3, 2012
you need to realize that marriage does not prevent divorce
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Direct Answers - Column for the week of July 21, 2003
I don't know whether to call it jealousy or insecurity. My husband and I have been married almost 30 years. Last year at my husband's surprise birthday party, one of my friends asked who a certain woman in the room was.
When I asked why, she said,I do my best to recall my time at the ward. It reminds me that there are others, "She and your husband have been making eye contact all night, and he seems to be paying her a lot of attention." From there on I started watching the behavior between them.
My husband participates in a sport with this woman's husband, and at times we are all together. Each time I noticed more and more eye contact between them. Just to be sure I was not imaging things, I asked my sister. She thought with the looks they gave each other, something might be going on.
Late one evening, I confronted my husband. He replied,5685 Ugg Fox Fur Short Chocolate Boots, "Don't be ridiculous." He said he loves me and goes to participate in the sport and that is all. He was furious. I told him I loved him too, but I also said my first warning was to him, the next will be to her, and thereafter to her husband. He said if something is going on, it is all on her side.
At the next sporting event, this woman avoided me like the plague. It was like she was scared to death of me. Obviously someone told her something. When I asked my husband if he had, he said no.
Now even though I did nothing wrong, I am very uncomfortable around this woman. I have three decades invested in this marriage and love this man dearly. Still it is hard to get past this and be friends with this woman again.
Helene
Helene, you didn't smell perfume on your husband's shirt or see lipstick on his collar. All you found was a woman publicly flirting with your husband. Possibly she flirts to make herself feel good, with no real desire behind it. But when the word got out, she stopped.
You did three things. You let your circle of friends know you are an observant woman who defends her territory. You let your husband know you will confront this issue head on. And if anything was going to happen, you dumped water on the embers.
Mission accomplished. Now the key is to drop this. If the situation has stopped, let it go. If you let it go, your husband may even take it as a compliment. You have let him know how much you desire him.
With the other woman, you don't need to be her enemy and you don't need to be her friend. Talk to her as you would to any other slight acquaintance. Hold your head up high as a confident married woman who will not allow anyone to sneak around behind her back.
Wayne & Tamara
Her Proposal
I am a 21-year-old female in a committed relationship with a man I love and want to marry,The audience is the reason that you are afraid of making your presentation. We plan to live together when I go to graduate school. My dad says he can't imagine me finding a sweeter, better man who loves me so much.
Now I'm worried about the whole living together thing because studies say that living together leads to divorce, and I don't want to lose him! His dad is concerned he will be tied down, and we will have kids. I don't see that happening anytime soon! I feel ready to marry now, and I don't want to lose him.
Daryl
Daryl, even if you believe the research on living together is valid, you need to realize that marriage does not prevent divorce, abuse,The collective intelligence, infidelity, or unhappiness. If you are afraid moving in together will stop a wedding, then don't live with him. But if you want to marry him because you think you will lose him, then he isn't yours to have.
Wayne & Tamara
Direct Answers - Column for the week of July 21, 2003
I don't know whether to call it jealousy or insecurity. My husband and I have been married almost 30 years. Last year at my husband's surprise birthday party, one of my friends asked who a certain woman in the room was.
When I asked why, she said,I do my best to recall my time at the ward. It reminds me that there are others, "She and your husband have been making eye contact all night, and he seems to be paying her a lot of attention." From there on I started watching the behavior between them.
My husband participates in a sport with this woman's husband, and at times we are all together. Each time I noticed more and more eye contact between them. Just to be sure I was not imaging things, I asked my sister. She thought with the looks they gave each other, something might be going on.
Late one evening, I confronted my husband. He replied,5685 Ugg Fox Fur Short Chocolate Boots, "Don't be ridiculous." He said he loves me and goes to participate in the sport and that is all. He was furious. I told him I loved him too, but I also said my first warning was to him, the next will be to her, and thereafter to her husband. He said if something is going on, it is all on her side.
At the next sporting event, this woman avoided me like the plague. It was like she was scared to death of me. Obviously someone told her something. When I asked my husband if he had, he said no.
Now even though I did nothing wrong, I am very uncomfortable around this woman. I have three decades invested in this marriage and love this man dearly. Still it is hard to get past this and be friends with this woman again.
Helene
Helene, you didn't smell perfume on your husband's shirt or see lipstick on his collar. All you found was a woman publicly flirting with your husband. Possibly she flirts to make herself feel good, with no real desire behind it. But when the word got out, she stopped.
You did three things. You let your circle of friends know you are an observant woman who defends her territory. You let your husband know you will confront this issue head on. And if anything was going to happen, you dumped water on the embers.
Mission accomplished. Now the key is to drop this. If the situation has stopped, let it go. If you let it go, your husband may even take it as a compliment. You have let him know how much you desire him.
With the other woman, you don't need to be her enemy and you don't need to be her friend. Talk to her as you would to any other slight acquaintance. Hold your head up high as a confident married woman who will not allow anyone to sneak around behind her back.
Wayne & Tamara
Her Proposal
I am a 21-year-old female in a committed relationship with a man I love and want to marry,The audience is the reason that you are afraid of making your presentation. We plan to live together when I go to graduate school. My dad says he can't imagine me finding a sweeter, better man who loves me so much.
Now I'm worried about the whole living together thing because studies say that living together leads to divorce, and I don't want to lose him! His dad is concerned he will be tied down, and we will have kids. I don't see that happening anytime soon! I feel ready to marry now, and I don't want to lose him.
Daryl
Daryl, even if you believe the research on living together is valid, you need to realize that marriage does not prevent divorce, abuse,The collective intelligence, infidelity, or unhappiness. If you are afraid moving in together will stop a wedding, then don't live with him. But if you want to marry him because you think you will lose him, then he isn't yours to have.
Wayne & Tamara
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